A Narcissist by Any Other Name
Is still a narcissist
Social media is filled with name-calling, but most people have little knowledge of what narcissism really is. They think it’s just taking selfies or eating up the last piece of pizza without asking if anyone else wants it. For this reason alone, we need to talk about the traits of narcissism. We need to define this abuse by an identifiable name to get the point across and save lives.
I’m not a professional counselor, but I spent most of my adult life banging my head against the wall, trying to disarm my narcissistic abuser with love. And yet, over and over, I was lied about and accused of living in the past or making things up. I was accused of being too sensitive and not being willing to forgive and forget. By the time I was in my forties, I was in a constant cycle of depression any time I had contact with a certain person. I knew I’d been asked to play a game I could never win, but I kept thinking it was me. I thought if I could just love this person better they would return the love, but I was wrong.
My counselor at the time never used the word narcissist to explain any of the behaviors I complained about. For one thing, counselors can’t diagnose people who are not their patients, so they often steer clear of the term.
